How to avoid Married People Seeking Singles on Dating Sites

Even in the offline world, you can't trust some people to be who they say they are. But is the online dating scene even worse in attracting men and women who are married but secretly seeking others for extra-marital affairs?

While men are typically typecast as being the louts in this kind of arrangement, they're not the only perpetrators. Some women are seeking partners at online dating sites as a security measure against being alone in between partners.

But for the most part, online dating site participants are genuine people who are single and seeking the perfect match for their love life. Most of the despicable people who are married and straying go to websites devoted to playing the field while taken, so there's not as much danger encountering these individuals on a single online dating site.

Still, it could happen. If you don't take precautions to get to know someone before taking things too far, then there maybe those who accuse you of playing a part in the adulterous relationship.

Don't be willing to just accept someone's profile as gospel. You need to get to know your online dating prospects before agreeing to meet with them or engage in any romantic relationships.

Sometimes, love moves more quickly on the 'net, so you have to protect yourself against the possibility that the other party isn't being completely up front about who they are or what they're seeking.

You don't want to be plagued by guilt and shame that ensues when you find out you've been the unwitting accomplice in a triangle of love with your online dating partner that the other person's spouse knows nothing about.

If you discover someone you're interested in has been playing the virtual field while still tied down to someone in the offline world, then you need to abruptly end the discussions and move on to someone who was more forthright in their disclosure of who they are and their marital status.

Some bloggers are taking adulterers who use online dating sites to task, accusing them of violating the unsuspecting party's Constitutional Rights and making it more than just an ethical or moral dilemma.

Make sure you ask questions and notice anything unusual in the prospect's demeanor. And most importantly, recognize that even if it happens to you, these people are in the minority, and don't represent the majority of the online dating pool.

Relationship Therapy You Can Do on Your Own

While most relationships have their share of ups and downs, very few couples are willing or able to invest the time and/or money that traditional relationship therapy would cost.

This doesn't mean that they're more or less committed to the success of their relationship than other couples - only that they have different limits as to what they find an acceptable intrusion into their private lives (particularly when it comes to a third party such as a therapist).

The good news for those that find themselves in this particular situation - or even when one partner simply isn't willing to go into therapy - is that there are things you can do that can lead to self healing and repairing a relationship that may be damaged.

You can do this as one partner or as a couple, although it's much more effective when both people participate. We've become a society of do-it-yourselfers, so it only makes sense that we're bringing this idea into the more personal aspects of our lives rather than the simple home improvement projects.

Positive thinking is a great place to start. Whenever the roads of romance become a little too rocky for comfortable travel, it's time to take a step back and remind each other why you fell in love in the first place.

Make a list, write a letter, write a poem, or take a few minutes to hold each other and dance. Remind each other of the wonderful person you are when unencumbered with the worries of the world, children, finances, and the world outside the circle of your arms.

There are many different styles of self-therapy that you can use. You may want to check out some books on the various styles and read them together for advice, guidance, and perhaps a little insight as to where your specific problems may lie and the best path to take in the future.

One highly recommended style of relationship therapy is known as the Imago, which is Latin for 'match' style. You can find many books on this topic either online or at your local library. The important thing is that you take as many steps as possible together.

Role-playing is another great way to obtain valuable insight as to how you perceive your partner as well as how he or she sees you. You may learn a lot about how the English language is woefully inadequate at conveying precise messages. You may intend to say one thing and your partner may hear something else entirely. It's important to learn how to communicate with one another positively and accurately. Working together through self-therapy and role-playing can help you achieve that.

How To Make Online Dating Simple

Online dating is supposed to be easy, but some dating websites are making it more complex that it needs to be. Instead of helping you find your perfect match, they make you sift through thousands upon thousands of profiles of people you'd never want to meet.

Fortunately, the relationship experts at eHarmony are here to help. They've developed a sophisticated Compatibility Matching System that allows people to easily connect with their most compatible partners.

How does it work? Believe it or not, the answer is science. Researchers at eHarmony studied successful married couples and discovered the characteristics that led to the couples' overall happiness. Using this data, they created their relationship questionnaire, an in-depth survey that analyzes a person's most important characteristics based on 29 dimensions of compatibility like: beliefs, values, temperament, curiosity and intellect.

The questionnaire is straightforward. There are no right or wrong answers. It's simply a fun way to let eHarmony know who you are and what you're looking for in an ideal mate. The information is kept completely confidential.

What happens next?

After you've completed the questionnaire, eHarmony's Compatibility Matching System performs a comprehensive search and matches you with like-minded people who share your most important qualities and characteristics.

"We're not looking for clones," one of eHarmony's founders says. "Our models emphasize similarities in personality and in values. If you have someone who's Type A and real hard charging, (we) put them with someone else like that."

Most dating websites only care about your first date, but eHarmony wants to ensure that you and your partner are able to build a happy, healthy long-term relationship based on compatability.

"It's much easier for people to relate if they don't have to negotiate all these differences," the founder says. "It's fairly common that differences can initially be appealing, but they're not so cute after two years."

Everyone dreams of finding their perfect match. Luckily, eHarmony is making it a reality. According to Harris Interactive Research, on average, 236 eHarmony members marry every day. If you feel like you're missing out, don't worry-now is a great time to get started.

The relationship experts at eHarmony will take you step-by-step through the entire process. They want to help you find that perfect match and create the happy long-term relationship you've always wanted.

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